Children don’t always know how to describe what they feel. Sometimes the emotion shows up through behaviour: outbursts, avoidance, sleep difficulties or physical complaints.
Naming the emotion
“It seems to me you’re disappointed” helps far more than “There’s no reason to get upset.” Naming an emotion regulates it and lets the child feel understood.
Contain before solving
The urge to fix things quickly is natural, but a child who feels listened to calms down faster.
First containment, then a solution. Sometimes a solution isn’t needed at all.
Routine and stability
Clear boundaries and a predictable routine reduce anxiety in children more than any verbal explanation.
Notice changes
A sudden change in sleep, appetite, achievement or willingness to go to kindergarten or school — it’s worth paying attention to.
Take care of yourselves too
An exhausted parent finds it hard to contain. Parent guidance is part of the child’s treatment, not a luxury.
When to reach out
When the difficulty lasts for weeks, affects functioning at kindergarten or school, or when you feel you lack the tools — it’s worth consulting. Reaching out early shortens the process.
